I get asked this question a lot. I invite you to imagine with me...
Picture yourself talking to a colleague or friend, the conversation is full of opinions an ideas, it's vocally dynamic and at times even impassioned. It goes on for a good 10-15 minutes and then you part ways.
Do you continue to think about this conversation after you've parted? Most likely, yes.
Do you ever once ask yourself: What did I do with my hands? Most likely, no.
If you are truly connected to what you are saying, your gestures will complement and often drive home your point, they enhance whatever it is you are feeling.
Know that they are always valid, and fascinatingly not really thought of.
Now, if you are one of those super animated individuals, those who talk very loudly with their hands, then it could become a bit distracting. So if this is rings true for you, look in the mirror and practice being a little less 'grandiose'. Try pretending you have weights in your hands and can't move them as fast or as far.
Lastly, it's nice to find a comfortable resting place for your hands if you do start thinking about them. Perhaps on the podium if there is one, clasped in a relaxed position in front of you, or maybe with bent elbows. Whichever is a comfortable. That way if you find yourself uncomfortable and need a place to put them, you have one.
**Stop thinking about your hands and start thinking about your listeners :-)
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